In the the upset that the doctor caused last week, onle tiny thing that he said kind of got lost. It was the most worthwhile thing that he said in the whole visit. He said I have to stop the "all or nothing" mentality that drives most of what I do.
He's got a point.
I do have an all or nothing mentality. If I can't do *all* the house and get *all* the house perfect, I won't even try. If I fall off the diet wagon, then I may as well just lie by the side of the road and stuff my face with anything edible cos it's all ruined. If I can't find half an hour to study something in the Bible, then I won't study it at all because near enough is not good enough; it's all or nothing. Mostly, it seems, it's nothing.
Today is my first opportunity to try out a new way of thinking.
Yesterday we had a guest to dinner - a colleague of Mister Bear. I have never in my life provided a meal for a guest and not also provided a dessert. Last night I got a an apple and sultana strudel. As it turned out we didn't get to have it for dessert as both Mister Bear and his colleague had a seminar to go to. When Mister Bear got home the four of us had the dessert (of course).
Ok.
So I had a slice of strudel.
Did it cause major damage to the diet? No. I am 200g up on yesterday, but 200g is nothing. I have lost 2kg since starting, so I am still 2kg ahead of where I was this time last week. That's a positive.
Will I have dessert today? No. I won't.
I will probably have something not on the diet though as we are going to a wedding tonight. Will that be the end of the world? No. It won't.
Will I be back on the diet wagon tomorrow? You bet!
Will I weigh less at the weigh-in on Sunday? Yes, indeedy. Probably in the 2-3kg range (gotta be happy with that!)
Do I feel better than I did this time last week? Yes. I do.
Will I go to the gym again this week? In all probability, yes. One 500 calorie workout will pretty much erase the strudel.
Does it have to be all or nothing? No, it doesn't. Sometimes the best you can do is the best.
My new mantra is "it's not for ever; it's just for now".
Nor is it all or nothing...sometimes it's something.
I have to find that happy place in the middle and be content with that.
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